Wednesday, August 15, 2007

If you hate your partner, just throw her off the window

This is not a joke. I didn't make up such story. Look, it happens!!

4PETALING JAYA: A woman was killed when she was thrown off the 10th floor of a block of flats in Kampung Baiduri yesterday. Her grandmother, who saw this, collapsed and died of a heart attack. The woman, who was staying on the 17th floor, had gone down to her grandmother’s house on the 10th floor earlier in the day. Her husband came later, allegedly in a drunken state, and a quarrel ensued. A neighbour said he saw the man carrying his wife before throwing her off the corridor. On seeing this, the elderly woman collapsed. The neighbour said the man ran to the ground floor, carried his wife’s body and started to cry. The couple, married for 10 years, has a nine-year-old daughter. Petaling Jaya OCPD Asst Comm Mazlan Mansor said a 33-year-old man had been detained to assist in the investigations. -The Star, 13th August 20073

Do you agree with me that woman are..ahem... smart, they've self confidence, they know what they want in life.....but as soon as they fall in love, somehow, they became dumb. Oh wait, I'm not asking you to throw him over the cliff leave your good-for-nothing partners now whom you adored and said 'I-DO' years ago. Remember those were the days when both of you gave each other that puppy eyes look and exchanging vows on that oh-so-romantic wedding day? I bet you didn't plan to throw him/her off the building when you confessed your love to each other hor?. But look what happen 10 years down the road?!

What I'm trying to highlight here is WHY WOMAN STILL STICK TO THEIR MAN EVEN IF THEY'RE BEING ABUSED?. I've known and heard of people and even friends who's having an abusive partner. Some were emotionally abused, a few were physically and sexually abused BUT YET they stick to their partners hoping that he will change one day. Some were kicked, slapped, stranggled and I've a friend whom the husband actually chased her with a chopping knife but she still love her to bits. To make things worst, she, the wife of an adulterous man gave him more babies "hoping" that she will 'lock' and tie her husband's straying heart with more responsibilites. Gosh, what happens now? She's a divorced mother now with a bunch of poor growing up kids. I don't think it works.

Men can never be tied down with marital responsibilites like woman! We woman are more sacrificial in these areas. What say you?


Anonymous said...

Seriously, when you are in that state, you don't know a way out.

My ex b.f was abusive, but I dared not leave him, as he threathened to do things to my family if I did. In the end, he was the one who left me, and still I cried like no tomorrow..

Very stupid in deed.. but then when I was in that state, I just find no exit.

But now looking back, I can see how stupid and silly I was. Haih.

I'm not leaving my name.. so you won't know who I am. Such a shameful thing.

papajoneh said...

Firstly, thanks for dropping by and congratulating me on the twin boys. Thanks :D

About the post, well, im not that kind of man... for sure.:D

L'abeille said...

Dear Anonymous,

I'm sorry to hear that you've been in that situation. Well, to be frank, me too but more like "emotionally abuse kinda thingy"...that is the reason why I wrote about this topic..hehe.. Maybe one of these days, I must share my story with my readers ;)

Oh btw, I believe you'll have a better life now without him. :))

p/s: you may contact me via my email :)

Cheers gal!

L'abeille said...

Hi PJ,

You chop my head off also I won't agree that you're such a man ler!!

I've been your blog's stalker for a quite a while ya know hehe..

socrates rudy sirait said...

Love, Couple and Abuse...
First, lack of proper communication, then negative feeling and ended with disrespect... at this point, sometimes it is so hard for couple to control over their relationship...

L'abeille said...

Hey Rudy,

"Yeah...Communication is the key to a successful relationship."

....tapi kadang-kadang asyik si isteri saja yang cakap.. "pok pek pok pek".....suami tertidur pulak..

tapi jangan lah sampai nak buang isteri dari bangunan hehehe..